Amazingly enough we had a great evening with T being trite and helpful, apologetic and lovely - did he respect/need that boundary?
Sun's just occuring - can't decide whether this blogging business is for me or not. Isn't it just a little sad - like you've got no-one to talk to - 'tho I do feel like that just now.
Need to plan a treat - when's the next festival etc - must be St Paddy's when we're away to Aberystwyth for a spot of surfing and feasting.
A gap 'til then. Better go & practice making giant lanterns for workshops coming up at the school.
Hasta luegito.
Wednesday, 21 February 2007
Tuesday, 20 February 2007
Moira's maternal musings
Usual whirl on Tuesday mornings trying to get out the house with three packed dinners, swimming kit, PE kit, violin, stuff for clubs......and the 3 children. Eleven year old T kicking off again, werriting about being late but not enough to stop him pestering B. Drip-feed of irritation building 'til I have a hissy fit at him and he smirks - result for him. I feel bad - yet again - that I've lost my rag at him - its all on top of the weekend when he's been so vile that makes my tolerance so low.
So, I get myself ready then come down to tell T that he's to walk to school with us via the pool to make him think about how his behaviour affects all of us. T not happy - he starts walking and I tell him that if he goes off I won't let him play his match tonight. I set off with M and B thinking T'll follow me, but he doesn't, he's heading the short way to school. I tell him again the consequence, then keep going expecting him to catch us up. But he doesn't. So all the way to the pool I'm fuming and so to school.
What do you do? I don't want this job of constant nagging, telling, checking up, dishing out sanctions -but I can't resign, just "keep on keeping on". It's so much harder short-term to keep parenting & not give up/in, but I just hope it'll make for better more considerate humans long-term.
So to school to explain to T and scary PE teacher just why T is not going to match, in the hope that PE teacher might give him a telling off as well (but spare me). I'm in such a mood by now I don't want to get in an argument with her re. parental v. school responsibility - especially as she finds it hard not to talk to adults as if they were 6.
So, T will be in a mood for days. These are the happiest days of my life - not.
Will pancake day later bring any of the glimpses of the rewards which make it all worthwhile?
So, I get myself ready then come down to tell T that he's to walk to school with us via the pool to make him think about how his behaviour affects all of us. T not happy - he starts walking and I tell him that if he goes off I won't let him play his match tonight. I set off with M and B thinking T'll follow me, but he doesn't, he's heading the short way to school. I tell him again the consequence, then keep going expecting him to catch us up. But he doesn't. So all the way to the pool I'm fuming and so to school.
What do you do? I don't want this job of constant nagging, telling, checking up, dishing out sanctions -but I can't resign, just "keep on keeping on". It's so much harder short-term to keep parenting & not give up/in, but I just hope it'll make for better more considerate humans long-term.
So to school to explain to T and scary PE teacher just why T is not going to match, in the hope that PE teacher might give him a telling off as well (but spare me). I'm in such a mood by now I don't want to get in an argument with her re. parental v. school responsibility - especially as she finds it hard not to talk to adults as if they were 6.
So, T will be in a mood for days. These are the happiest days of my life - not.
Will pancake day later bring any of the glimpses of the rewards which make it all worthwhile?
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